[Skyhighwoman]

If she accepts it now then she should have no problems later.
Yeah right, she got her claws in you now buddy! Flying as you know it is over!

JUST KIDDING!

It would help if she has her own life, you have yours and you also have one together. You'll learn to juggle your time if she is not going out flying with you now.

Congratulations! I wish you and your wife to be many many HAPPY years together and flying!

Carm

[PilotGuy]

[designbydave]

[FormerFF]

[i8godzilla]

[Southside]

"Don't give me that." "It's your job to raise the kids."
"I don't give a rat's arse how many hours you spent at the hospital this week."
"Yeah, I know that you were on call last night." "Tough!"
" I didn't put a gun to your head to become a doctor."
"You knew all along what you were getting into."
" And you knew that I was a hang glider pilot before you married me."
"So the hell with it!" "I'm going flying!"

[Mrsposer]

[day dreamer]

[dievhart]

this stuff remided me of something I read awhile ago....
Diev

Need a Husband?

A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City , where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates: You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs.
She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.
'That's nice,' she thinks, 'but I want more.' So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking.
'Wow,' she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.
'Oh, mercy me!' she exclaims, 'I can hardly stand it!' Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.
She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:
Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,013 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

PLEASE NOTE:
To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives store just across the street.
The first floor has wives that love sex.

The second floor has wives that love sex and have money and like beer.

The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.

[Mrsposer]

Absolutely hilarious dievhart!!


I guess Randy isn't the perfect man after all....he doesn't "love kids". But, honestly...neither do I!! I love the ones that will behave which is getting harder and harder to find these days.

Unfortunately for Randy, I am not the perfect woman either. I am broke!!

Oh well, we've learned to accept each other's flaws.

[sg]

[rfh12345]

It's very easy to have a happy marriage. I got married at 18 and am now 41. For a lot of years I tried to keep myself happy, doing what I wanted to do, which had mixed results. Now I know the easy way. Don't worry about making/keeping yourself happy. Make the WIFE happy. If SHE'S happy, YOU, in turn, WILL be happy. Cause when she ain't happy, NOBODY repeat NOBODY is happy. It took me some years to figure that simple thing out and put it into practice. It actually takes very little effort to make/keep them happy. You get a large return for a little investment. In my early years I tried to buck the system now and then. That never really ended in happiness.

Good Luck

[Radwhacker]

Ah, a wise man indeed.

Happy Wife, Happy Life!

[fly n mater]

Oh god you guys are funny!! If this chair didn't have arms on it, I would have hit the floor a few times.

Now I'm going to say something that might piss some off. But having a spouse is like having a dog. I don't mean that like you think. I love dogs and I love my wife very much, very dearly.

But as Rad said, someone has to be in charge. And you each have to know your boundaries. One of the things that she must understand is what is important to you and what you will absolutely NOT give up. And the same is true with you.

Something you must understand is that women will marry a man thinking she will and can change you. It is up to you to let her change what you want her to change. A very important thing is if you want to include her in HG, you have to find an outlet for her. Something that she will like to do while you are flying. And you must support her effort twice as much as she does you.

This is good for two reasons. I) it gives you ammo when you need something new for HG and it gives you ammo for when you need that fix. Its harder for her to say no when you can say I've spent X amount of time supporting you doing whatever.

You must remember as CHassen said. Wife time changes as she wishes. so what works today for wife time doesn't neccassarily count as wife time tomorrow. I've spent all day with my wife and the next day she said I hadn't done anything with her in a week or two. Women's hormones change as they get older as well or have kids. BE PREPARED!!!

The best thing is to talk to her, let her know how important HG is to you and how important she is as well. Its a balancing act that changes each day. I've been married for 21 years. But the most important thing is to love and forgive each other. Then forget what ever happened. Holding onto hard feelings is a sure recipe for divorce.

Good luck

[Zig]

Been married since '99 and have three kids, here is my take:

Have interests! You found what you love to do, I hope she has found her thing. Now commit to doing the things that make you happy, and be supportive of the other persons interests.

One of the best things that happened in our marriage is when my wife joined roller derby. It was a big commitment, especially with 3 kids. But I worked with her and was very supportive. Here is what was great: she loves it and it gave her something outside of our marriage to be passionate about, she met a great group of very supportive women, we were apart more (absence makes the heart grow fonder--remember that), she wears fishnets 3 times a week (YAY!), and the best part for me is that it kind of gave me the permission to pursue something that I always wanted to do. Our marriage is a lot better since she started beating other women up. It may sound dumb, but it really was one of the best things for our marriage.

Another thing: you will probably have passionate sex for the next year or two (less if you make a baby too soon), so SOAK IT UP. Because before too long she will be asking you if you mailed the check for the electric bill in the middle of it.

And about kids: Is there a word for something, once created, destroys the mechanism of its own creation? Ahhh, right: KIDS. But its okay, because they also suck up all your funds, test your patience to its limits, worry you to death, and make you feel insane. On the other hand, kids are also the very best thing about being alive. They will give you your greatest joys, make you so proud you could pop, and allow you to experience a love so deep it will take your breath away. Have kids, lots of them...but make some memories with just you and your wife first. Those memories will allow you to get through the times when you are staring at each other at 2am, trying to will the other person to clean the vomit with which your precious child has bathed herself.

[sg]

Kids and happiness have been studied quite a bit in the last few years and the results have been very interesting.

OVER ALL - kids make people slightly less happy. Of course, as a parent, you would never dare openly admit this, you just cant, but in anonymous polls they do All the good times balance out the bad, almost. In fact, one study I read said that even after the kids leave the nest, they make you slightly less happy due to worry. Empty nest syndrome has also shown to be a HAPPIER time for couples over all So many misconceptions out there, its really good to see the data coming out now.

So I figure... hmmmmm... incredibly huge $$$$ expense for, "slightly less happy" and lifelong worry??? No thanks ill pass Greyhounds do just fine

[Radwhacker]

I have a friend that postulates that parents should be allowed, by law, to kill their kids if deemed appropriate.

It would go far towards creating a much more polite population of children.

Ancillary to this theory is the notion that every person should be allowed to kill one other person, no questions asked, once in his or her lifetime.

Consider - that person that you are about to be rude to, or rip off in some way, may not have used up his free shot yet.

[FormerFF]

[Redbeard]

[mgforbes]